12 Dating Facts I Want To Know About You!
Wed, Feb 3 2010 by Celes
Hey guys! In conjunction with the upcoming V-Day and V-day episode of The Celes Show, I’m starting a meme for each of us to share the 12 dating facts about ourselves. Finally, an opportunity for your friends (and your secret admirers!!) to know more about your takes on dating and relationships! 
This is a meme for singles only! This means if you are reading this and you are single, you have been tagged!! 
If you are not a single, you can still participate by tagging your single friends!
Participation is simple – Simply:
- Copy and paste this entire post content and title in Facebook, Myspace, your personal blog, etc – whichever publishing tool you use.
- Delete my answers to the 12 questions below.
- If you are a single, post your answers to each question. If you are not a single, you are not allowed to answer :p. This is a singles only meme!
- Tag at least 5 single friends. Tag me as well so I can read your answers too! Post the URL to your meme in the comments box below so I’ll know you have tagged me!
- Catch the V-Day episode of The Celes Show online (@ http://celesshow.com) on Feb 12 where you will get secret insights into the world of dating and relationships from Top Dating & Relationships Expert, Violet Lim (co-founder of Lunch Actually, Asia’s largest and premier dating agency)!
12 Dating Facts About Me
My Basic Profile:
- Are you a guy or a girl? Girl!
- How old are you? 25 )
- How tall are you? 1.70m, or 5′ 7″. Many say that I’m tall for an Asian. I guess they’re right!
The 12 Dating Questions:
- What are the top 3 things you look for in a guy / girl? Competence, Consciousness, and Chivalry. Someone competent because I’m always expecting the best of myself, so I’d want my partner to be someone who holds high standards for himself too. Consciousness refers to awareness of self, others, and the world around us. It’s fundamental towards living a truly conscious life of your making. Chivalry because I think guys who look out for girls are really sweet!
- How important are looks to you? I think looks are important to the extent where the person looks presentable and takes pride in keeping in shape. These speak a lot about how he views himself and his personal image. In terms of good looks itself, the personality really speaks a whole lot more to me. Someone with a poor personality, even if he is supposedly handsome, will immediately come across as ugly to me. Similarly, someone who has a heart of gold, even if he may not be the best looker, will really attract me.
- Will you date someone who is more than 10 years apart from you in age? While 10 years is a considerable age gap, I wouldn’t rule out the possibility if the person seems like a potential match!
- If you are a girl / guy, will you consider dating someone who is shorter / taller? Why? Typically I’ll only consider someone who is the same height or taller than me. But the person seems like a great person, once again, I wouldn’t rule out the possibility
- If you like someone, will you make the first move? I’m quite the traditional romantic when it comes to dating, so I wouldn’t make the first move. But I will drop subtle hints or create opportunities between us!
- Do you think guys should always pay for the dates? It’s really sweet if the guy offer to pay, but it’s not fair for the guy to be paying all the time because the date should be an equal effort between both parties! I’ll offer to treat for every other date.
- What is the biggest thing that will turn you off about guy / girl? Self-centeredness. I’ve been out with guys who talk about themselves all the time and it gets really one-sided after a while!
- Do you believe in soulmates? I believe we have several soulmates who enter our lives as our family, best friends, life partners or even enemies to help us grow in our life journey. So in that sense, my definition of soulmates is not exactly the same as the Hollywood stereotype of the romantic partner. That being said, I definitely believe there is a special someone for each of us out there Finding this person is proving to be quite hard though!
- Do you believe in love at first sight? I don’t think it’s possible to fall in love at first sight, especially since it’s mainly physical looks we are talking about. But I think it’s possible to feel a strong affinity or connection in the first conversation, from the immediate vibes you get.
- How would you describe the feeling of being in love to someone who hasn’t been in love before? When the person is on your mind more than half the time, when you somehow manage to link or bring up the person in your conversations – even when it’s not even remotely related, when you break out into a big grin whenever the person is brought up, when you still feel attracted to the person despite knowing his/her “flaws” or “weaknesses”, when you can’t wait till the next time you see him/her
- What kind of date sounds the most fun to you? I think even the simplest date can be fun! Out on the beach, star gazing, candle light dinner, cooking together or even just chilling out at home!
- What do you feel is the #1 thing to a successful date? The right person Doesn’t matter what the activity is, if it’s the right person, the date will be amazing in itself!
Have fun with the meme! Remember to catch the V-Day episode on 12 Feb for the interview with Violet! Stay tuned for more updates!
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Sharing the answers from those who took part in the meme! Thanks guys for gamely taking part!
If you have taken part, please share your link with us in the comments box! 
1) Celestine Chua
2) Grace Oh
3) Hakeem SA
4) Anthony Wu
5) Isabel Wong
6) July Thirtyfirst
7) Alys Goh
8 ) Sheena Koh
9) Lim Tze Kent
10) Gerlynn Toh
11) Hasan Diwan
* Are you a guy or a girl?
guy
* How old are you?
30
* How tall are you?
153cm or 5′ 1
1. What are the top 3 things you look for in a guy / girl?
a. signs of a working brain
b. signs of a fashion sense
c. signs of romantic intent
2. How important are looks to you?
Initial attraction is entirely based on physique — I don’t have the necessary sixth sense to see into a person’s soul and tell if I’ll get on with them long term off the bat.
3. Will you date someone who is more than 10 years apart from you in age?
Not really, I’m 30, so +10 would be 40, which is a bit old for my taste and -10 is 20. Given that I live in the US and enjoy going to bars and drinking wine, 20 wouldn’t be legal to drink in this country.
4. If you are a girl / guy, will you consider dating someone who is shorter / taller? Why?
Sure, given my lack of height, I get slim pickings if I restrict myself to dating someone who’s shorter than me.
5. If you like someone, will you make the first move?
Sure
6. Do you think guys should always pay for the dates?
Nope, first date, valentine’s, and her birthday, yes, other dates? not necessarily.
7. What is the biggest thing that will turn you off about guy / girl?
If she prattles on about her own pet topic without acknowledging my lack of interest.
8. Do you believe in soulmates?
Honestly, I have no idea. I’m open to the idea, though.
9. Do you believe in love at first sight?
Nope, I believe in lust at first sight, love takes time to develop.
10. How would you describe the feeling of being in love to someone who hasn’t been in love before?
Love is waking up next to the person and wanting to spend the rest of the day with her.
11. What kind of date sounds the most fun to you?
A picnic at a winery under the sunshine overlooking the ocean.
12. What do you feel is the #1 thing to a successful date?
Both people wanting to be with each other.
Hey Celes,
It’s me, Eva from Boston again! Love this article! And just wanted to say that I loved the prelude to the talk show as well. You are so pretty and cute.
I couldn’t agree more with you on the relationship and soulmate stuff. I believe that we all have many soulmates. I do also think that it takes a damn good one to want to spend the rest of our lives with one. My own thoughts around that these days that I’m looking to share the next 60 plus years of my life with my future husband, and that raises the stakes and clarifies my non-negotiables or must haves… It’s helpful to think about our life’s purpose and the kind of life we want to have…i.e. fast forward and then back up and think about the practice of a life-time mate selection.
Love you,
Eva
12 Dating Facts About Me
My Basic Profile:
· Are you a guy or a girl? Girl!
· How old are you? 46
· How tall are you? 5′ 7″.
The 12 Dating Questions:
1. What are the top 3 things you look for in a guy? Is he competent in his own life? Does he have an awareness of the world around him, and his connection to it? (and I don’t mean does he recycle?) Does he see the value of being a gentleman around me? I need to feel his respect for me as a woman and I like feeling inspired by his own awareness of my presence. it shows he respects himself, and lets face it -like attracts like!
2. How important are looks to you? I think how a man looks is important but his ability to show that he understands what being presentable means and takes pride in the health of his body is greater. This speaks volumes to me about his self-image. In terms of “good looking” once I get to know him his personality is much more inspiring!
3. Will you date someone who is more than 10 years apart from you in age? As long as we’re talking older than me, yes.
4. If you are a girl, will you consider dating someone who is shorter / taller? Why? I wouldn’t rule out the possibility because again, it’s ultimately the personality that wins points with me.
5. If you like someone, will you make the first move? I’m traditional in this area, so I wouldn’t make the first move. I will make eye contact and smile. He’ll get it if he’s interested.
6. Do you think guys should always pay for the dates? Yes. At least while he’s attempting to get to know me better. Then, once we’re in an established relationship, I would be happy to offer sometimes. Of course this is all theoretical because post divorce, I haven’t actually HAD one … YET!
7. What is the biggest thing that will turn you off about a guy? Self-absorption; thus his lack of focus on the moment.
8. Do you believe in soulmates? I believe we have several soulmates throughout our lives, and depending upon where we’re at in our own personal growth, we meet others who are in a complementary place of growth, and assist each other in growing further. -sometimes thats the purpose. Perhaps happy marriages are soulmates who are willing to continue to grow both individually and together, in an upwardly direction? If not, then maybe this is when we move forward on our own, and another soulmate we wouldn’t have otherwise noticed before that growth spurt, is suddenly there to assist the next leg of the trip. I believe there is a special someone who wants the same things we want, and I don’t think it takes more than our own awareness of what it is we want for ourselves in our own lives, to sent the universe off searching for a like-minded him/her to bring to us. Hmmm. All I need to do now is figure out what that is for me, so “he” will come!
9. Do you believe in love at first sight? I think it’s possible to see or feel the soulmate in another at first sight, but I don’t think its common. It’s in the “vibes” you get but you may need to understand and be aware in order to identify that vibe over the other sorts of ‘vibes” you can get.
10. How would you describe the feeling of being in love to someone who hasn’t been in love before? Until recently, I had never been in love before … not in the truer sense -where desire is separate from “need”. Love as I understand it is … when I can’t stop thinking about him/her, and doing so momentarily takes my breath away. When I smile at the thought or mention of him. However, for me, it’s also when in his presence everything suddenly becomes so easy and effortless; a floating feeling. A feeling of having known him for longer than I actually have. It’s a level of comfort I feel in his presence that moves time away and leaves me feeling deep appreciation for who he is separate and apart from me. So if THAT wasn’t love either, then it was the closest I’ve ever come and it was a feeling I will never forget. -I wish I hadn’t been so quick to let him go. I still had things to learn from him, and even though I know the lessons will come along with the next, I was thoroughly enjoying what I was experiencing with him. I can feel it still, but I let fear move me to action. I moved away emotionally for fear of letting him fully into my heart at a time when I otherwise knew he wasn’t in an emotional place to allow me all the way in. Right person at the wrong time? Most likely. And best that I can tell, that still makes him the wrong person for me.
11. What kind of date sounds the most fun to you? Uncomplicated. At least until we’ve come to know one another better. It can be hard to focus on everything else when I’m trying to get to know someone, so I have more fun when it’s easygoing and uncluttered. – just talking to each other and finding humor in those moments of clumsiness.
12. What do you feel is the #1 thing to a successful date? The level of connection makes the date! And I attribute that to the willingness of both people to be open to allowing their true selves to be seen by the other. -a huge compliment!
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